When you look back on 2013, what stands out for you? It’s too easy to focus on what went wrong, or what you’d like to do better. If you want 2014 to be more fulfilling, it’s time to take a look at what went right.
This past year was a tough one for our family. There were lots of transitions: the loss of a parent, changes in jobs and finances for both me and my husband, the other Big D (diabetes), and the loss of our dog stand out for me. But now that the year is coming to a close, I look back and see that in spite of the losses and challenges, there is much for which to be grateful.
Leaving teaching has given me a peace of mind I haven’t had in years, and I have more time to devote to my coaching practice, family and friends. We have a new dog who is a sweet bundle of energy. The loss of one parent has brought us both closer to our remaining parents. As difficult as it was, setting some new limits has definitely been beneficial for one of our kids. And with the diagnosis of Type 2 Diabetes, I am on a plan that got my numbers under control and helped me lose 20 pounds. No medication… at least for now.
Finances, family, kids, health, job — everyone struggles with one or more of these. Hey, bad things will happen. It’s inevitable. It’s how you deal with them that matters. Just remember this: negative thoughts breed negative energy, and together they set you up for more negativity in all areas of your life.
A great way to prepare for the future and your new year’s resolutions is to focus on the positive. I want you to take some time to reflect on the year gone by and look for what went well. Close your eyes, do a ‘year-in-review’. List your successes, learning and growth. This isn’t about your kids (although it can include them). Pay attention to what you learned when things weren’t going well. What strengths did you call on? What did you learn about yourself? When you react and respond in a positive, productive way, that puts you on the road to success. Your attitude can raise you up, or drop you into a pit. You get to choose.
When you think about what how 2014 can be different, or better, it’s important to build on your strengths. So when you look back, look deep, and see how you are so much better than you were before. Celebrate your progress! And happy new year!